1) Life changes. All kinds of changes. Jobs, relationships, addresses, cars, and even you. Once you really grasp the idea that everything normally ends up changing and life does eventually go back to a somewhat normal state of being, the change becomes that much easier. People get different jobs and move away. People just move away because nothing is really anchoring them to the place they are. Trust me, you learn to handle the changes like a champ and the feeling that your whole world has been completely shaken doesn't last as long as the last time.
2) It takes two to make or break a relationship. I say relationship because this lesson holds true for every relationship you are apart of. I once thought of this, in order for a relationship to with stand it all you have to allow the other person to be as selfish as they allow you. I know that relationships aren't suppose to have selfish foundations but hear me out for a minute. We have all had that friend that we can't spend more than one mealtime a month with because its always about them. They never allow you to be the topic of conversation. It's always them and what horrible thing is happening to them. Something is always wrong. But then think of the friends that you enjoy to e around the most. It's easy peasy to talk with them, to share your struggles, to tell them what's really on your mind and visversa.
3) Don't waste your time that the good Lord has given you. Invest in other people. Learn an instrument. Do the spontaneous adventures that someone suggest. Just don't sit around wishing you were doing something, do it.
4) Have "me" time. Take yourself on a date to a movie by yourself. Go to the park alone and nap or read a book under a tree. You need to discover who you are without others around. Those of you know me, know I most of the time love people. But for those of you that REALLY know me know I love my "me" time just as much. Learn to do things alone and I think you will become someone that does group settings even better.
5) Have friends of all ages. There is something about befriending a youth. They keep you young and they think you are super cool. We all need that ego boost every now and again. Befriend someone at least 10 years your senior (ten years older). There is knowledge that they can give you that you won't read about in a book.
6) Drama is stupid. Surround yourself with people that engage in it daily and it will eventually wear you down. Positive people have more fun anyway.
7)Find a band on noisetrade and download their music based solely on the cover art. You may just find your next favorite band.
8) Last but not least, learn the little things about people. Their favorite fountain pop, ice cream flavor, candy, or coffee order and one day when they text you the middle of the day and tell you that they have had a crappy day, surprise them with it. It's the little things that add up to be the bigger things.
In my many days of living I've learned a lot more than this but these are just a few things I thought I would pass on. Thanks for reading.
